I am not into BDSM as a "lifestyle" per se, or whatever you call it. No "play sessions" or roleplays, too staged for me, and no "trainings" - shit now that's scary the way most of these peeps put it. I am definitely not a textbook BDSM student, most definitely not one of THOSE types who blindly follow what they've read on the internet or in books, I don't take every BDSM rule & convention on board like some sorta brainwashed recent religious convert. I love spontaneous & natural domination, based on instinct, attraction, intensity, mad lust, & an innate desire to conquer the other person & just have them because you simply want them & HAVE to have them; the stuff your man & woman in D/s fiction insidiously disguised as "romance novels" are made of.
Though I am submissive and have always felt it since I was a , I only submit to those who have won me over. I want a deep connection, an invisible bond more than or before, a literal bond; not a "play partner", not roles, not formalities.
And please, NO JAPANESE ROPE BONDAGE or couples!!
PS - Don't know what that hand sign means? Google the word 'shocker' - First hit.
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My Ideal Person:
Jaded, very intelligent, natural Doms are most welcome, I'd like to think you see what I see. You don't believe in the Sir & Master formal terms of address stuff, what's in a name; you appreciate that it isn't all about the best equipment & dressing up, that in "Safe, Sane & Consensual", it's the sanity that's most important and the rest just follows naturally from there. You don't use elitist & exclusive BDSM jargon other than for classification, & do not subscribe to a fixed, cult-like mentality, while assuming that you are special because you're a "deviant" like only a select few people out there. That isn't why you're special.
You're no BDSM BS-spouting Dom &/or Master who goes on about "contracts", "training", how many subs you have trained (we don't wanna know!), how a suitable sub "may apply for the position" as if being your sub is some highly coveted, highly paid job to die for, and insist on writing like "A/all", "Y/you", etc...
You're not a rule-follower. You're smart, level-headed, refined - but crude when you need to be, extremely raunchy, you can articulate why you like the things that you like, you have a style of domination that is effortless and void of affectation, like you've felt (and done) this all your life. You act like it's your god-given right to be pleased, and people believe it. You make people want to listen to you, in any capacity. You're charming, commanding... Relentless and unstoppable.
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