My Ideal Person:
At this point I guess about 90% clicked off my profile in a hurry. To those still looking:

I am a dominant man. Not in a, do as I say way. I lead, I am proactive in my manner. I can and do influence the direction of conversation, when a decision has to be made, I make it and people usually follow. I do not think I am arrogant but I am confident in myself and what I do.

I am searching for those who have felt that they are a submissive player, or at least want to explore what it is to be submissive in a sexual way.
Role-play, Dom/sub, sex slavery, humiliation, shame, extremes, pleasures, needs and more, are all terms you may have heard. With me, you will learn what they mean and may experience them at various levels.

This does not mean you are a meek, sheep like person in your day-to-day life. In fact, most submissive players tend to have strong personalities, even dominant work roles or lives.

Ultimately, I am looking for that one woman I spend my life with. Until then I continue to explore.

I have been involved with BDSM from my early 20's. If you read 50 shades of Grey, try the books by A. N. Roquelaure (also known as Anne Rice of "Interview with a vampire", the sleeping beauty trilogy). They were written far earlier and are far more enjoyable. It was reading one of those in my teens, that awoke a desire for BDSM in my mind. Point to note, they get more extreme book by book.

Age: I have no age limits as such. other than under 20’s to my mind do not fit the criteria for informed consent; however, my ideal search is for those between 20 and 55.

One size fits all! Unfortunately, it does not. I have preferences, as do we all. Ladies over size 16 bottom is more than my taste prefers.

My Ideal Person?

I enjoy having females or couples who through informed consent, will allow me to direct passion-based play in a BDSM context. An informed consent can be said to have been given based upon a clear appreciation and understanding of the facts, implications and future consequences of an action. In order to give informed consent, the individual concerned must have adequate reasoning faculties and be in possession of all relevant facts at the time consent is given.

Or, be of relative sound mind and have some idea of what you may be getting into. Fruit loops and nutjobs need not bother contacting me.

A submissive is a person who submits or potentially submits to another. Within a BDSM only context, submissive is sometimes synonymous with bottom.
Submissive's can vary in how serious they take their position, training and situation. Reasons for this include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance or working through issues of shame. There are more reason’s but those are generally the more common one’s.

If a bit of kinky sex with handcuffs and your bottom being spanked is what you're mainly after, again please don't contact me.

Do not assume that because your submissive in play that I am looking for doormats. I like intelligent, articulate and imaginative women. I am not looking for 24/7, toilet slaves or pain pigs.

Until a submissive is ready and trusts her Dom totally, she actually retains ultimate control with play. This is through use of a safe word or signal (hard to talk with your mouth full). Use of that signal/word ends all play and her Dom will respect that.
She will have set her limits on play/events and while these may be tested and pushed, breaking them will leave a dominant without a sub. Her hard limits/no go areas should never be attempted even teasingly. All limits should be set well before any meetings or play occurs.
Honesty and communication are vital. Trust is built upon, earned and not a right. Over time, safe words etc will not be needed and play goes on the Dom’s knowledge and ability of reading his sub. The trust that has been built, allowing more control to be given to the Dom until the sub gives herself utterly to her Dom. That’s isn’t going to happen overnight.

E L James has made a fortune out of the 50 Shades series of books (not read them fully or seen the film/s). However, she has never had a real BDSM encounter herself. While erotic in a Mills and Boon way, what she wrote compares in no way to real BDSM experiences. They did bring BDSM into mainstream lives though.
Ann Summers and Co is quietly making a profit from all the handcuffs they seem to sell recently. All very nice. It just means there are a lot of couples out there engaging in some harmless fun. It has also woken some strong feelings or desires in many, things they may not have realised they liked the idea of before. Maybe that is you?

Exploring - You must want to explore, learn new and exciting experiences and develop your submissive nature. Through experimentation and experiences, you must want to open doors and progress deeper and deeper, working your boundaries and limits to meet mine. Alternative passion is about pleasurable experience, that can be explored beyond your means, go with it.

Communication - Ask questions, to the most intimate details. Ask again. Anything that is important to you should be asked. Before and after...(just not right after). To me this is important...I cannot read your mind! I can make educated guesses but without your input and ideas I cannot fully realise your personal desires.

Limits - Everyone has limits, and as time goes on, they will change as you are exposed to more experiences. Keep an open mind. Know what you want, to fulfil your desires...and I know mine. SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL (SSC) I don't run with. Risk aware, consensual kink (RaCK) is more my angle. There is a difference.

First Date:

Those of you who made it this far and have not run in fear, please feel free to message me; I rarely message anyone first.

If what I am and what interests me is something you have a genuine interest knowing more about, write, I will reply. Remember, this is just an aspect of me, not all of me. Other aspects of me enjoy a cuddle, talking, holding hands and normal vanilla fun. The BDSM side is just a part of me I want you to know from the start.

Any initial meeting is set at the level you prefer, probably in a café for coffee, for most. Or something a little more adventurous if you have the appetite.
Relationship goal? Wide open.