Ma personne idéale :
I'M GETTING A LOT OF MESSAGES FROM MEMBERS THAT I CAN'T READ OR REPLY TO - BDSM HAS CHANGED THEIR RULES, FREE MEMBERS CAN ONLY READ AND REPLY TO YOUR MESSAGES IF YOU HOTLIST AND FRIEND THEM FIRST, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU PAY THE UPCHARGE TO LET FREE MEMBERS READ YOUR MESSAGES.

Someone who is comfortable with thier own sexuality and enjoys talking about thier sexual experiences, fantasies, questions, observations, etc. I have grown tired of dealing with people on this site who write saying they are interested in meeting and playing - and then are too frightened to make any productive effort towards that goal. Equally, people who write asking for all sorts of information that they expect someone else to risk thier privacy to answer, but who are not willing to answer similar questions and expect all the effort and risks to be the other persons responsibility.

I don't do 'random', 'one nighters' or sex with someone I know nothing of, done at a moments notice - and I'm not interested in having sex with anyone who does have sexual encounters that way. There are a few basic pieces of information that must be shared in order to have sex, and they don't have to be highly specific or endanger a persons privacy and confidentiality:

Generally, where do you live in relation to the town that your profile says you live in (to get an idea of travel time)?
Generally, what days and times are you generally available for getting together to have sex?
Are you able to host, and if so, what days/times is that a possibility (if different that the days/times you noted above you were free to play)?
If you are not able to host, are you willing to split or pay for the cost of a motel room or what other options do you have for a location to play?

You can answer these questions without having to give up your social security number and blood type. If both peoples information is compatible, then you will need to be willing to share some means of communication that is faster than exchanging messages on BDSM. I won't drive any considerable distance to sit and wait for an hour for someone who doesn't show because they had a flat tire, and am not going to have someone come to my place with no way to let them know that my wife has come home from work early because she was sick and they are going to get an unpleasant meeting with a vengeful woman. I am willing to answer any sort of question usually or share pics but only AFTER we have exchanged the above information - if it will turn out that our schedules don't line up or with travel time there isn't really enough time for playing - then there is no reason to answer any other questions or send pics, is there?

For the record my answers to the above questions are - I live a little southwest of Kalamazoo, I'm usually free to play weekdays so long as I can be home around 6 pm, and I can host most of those days mentioned up till around 3pm although prefer not to host too often. I am very rarely available evenings or weekends and I have no problem sharing a motel room cost and do NOT do car or outdoor sex. If you give vague answers avoiding sharing information, I just don't reply. I'm up front with people and expect the same.