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I am a skilled experienced Dominant Erotic Sadist with 20 years active in the local, national and international Kink scene, seeking a LTR...more on that below.
Professionally I am a sex therapist, author, sex-researcher and sex educator. I also own the Tetruss Shibari bondage rig, portable dungeon and sex swing business since 2000
UPDDATE: Back in Portland until 2/6/22, them off to Thailand and Bali until 3/28/22.
I am open to suitable casual or friends/play partners and mentoring/training sincere submissives for intensive, play, socializing and attending events while I search for my long-term partner.
And if you are a woman who craves a loving, intimate D/s relationship, deep connection AND erotic bliss through mild to intense BDSM...welcome!
I seek a long term, mythically romantic, loving, committed D/s-BDSM relationship with an intelligent, sophisticated, soulful, educated, sexy, emotionally-mature submissive.
I am intelligent, skilled, professional, playful, sexy, tall, Dominant, nasty, dark-edged, compassionate, spiritual, soulful, tender and masculine.
I am, 6'2', physically active and HWP. I seek the same.
I have nearly 2 decades of real time experience in the private and public scene. I am skilled in the typical BDSM arts from rope to single-tail to psychological subjugation.
In relationship or play I combine the tender, noble side of D/s with a very dark-edged BDSM intensity.
On the D/s side, and in everyday life, I possess old-school masculine ways. I am a gentlemen, compassionate, offer clear communication, integrity, leadership, vision et al.
I enjoy romantic exchanges with my partner, holding hands, snuggling close. I seek the deep connection and intimacy of a loving, mutually pleasurable relationship.
I love adventuring in the world with my partner at my side, be she submissive or slave. This can range from camping in the wilds, attending a sexuality or Kink conference, to big city culture.
I follow my own personal practices to stay present, mindful, embodied and conscious in my breath. I regularly practice my own style of yoga and attend ecstatic dance.
I have a deep, ever inquiring intellect and a highly creative and passionate soul. I am accomplished in all those regards. I am complex. I want to be met in these realms of the mind and soul by a skilled listener naturally fascinated by and encouraging of my life mission. I seek one with a deep soul herself. I seek my muse. ...see more on my mission below.
I enjoy being served in thoughtful and sweet ways by my submissive. I enjoy protocol and ritual, but establish different protocols in general from low to high to accommodate day to day realities and responsibilities.
Held within the loving, intimate D/s aspect of our relationship is where the BDSM aspect can be consciously, consensually expressed. Here, the interactions could include psychological and physical torment, subjugation, sexual power-exchange, and sensual to intense erotic sensation, or put another way...
If you crave to be made to dress like a , treated like property, used like a filthy, perverse, nasty, dark-edged cunt, be a verbally and physically degraded pain slut, cock-pig, cum-, while driven to mind shattering orgasmic bliss, step to the front of the line!
I enjoy both primal and refined predator/prey dynamics. For me D/s-BDSM is a dance like an intense tango. I lead you follow, but we dance as one.
Beforehand clear inquiry would be undertaken to identify any language boundaries you may need around key areas such as intelligence, body image, worthiness, femininity, humanity, race, religion or other areas that might be important to have an initial or permanent boundary. Everyone's edges are different and I will respect and honor your negotiated boundaries.
And again to be clear, this refers to what takes place in a BDSM scene, not in our day to day relationship. In that regard you are my precious possession, companion, co-adventurer, friend, muse and soulmate.
I am a hedonistic pleasure-seeker. I enjoy quality healthy food, the arts, drink wine regularly or whiskey occasionally. I happily partake in marijuana on a regular basis, and have done so since my teens. I know it will lead to my ruin someday......but I am still waiting - lol!
I do partake within my limits when indulging in BDSM pleasure and have for nearly 20 years through hundreds of scenes. If you have any boundaries around that, good for you, but this my way.
I approach D/s-BDSM as a sacred ritual practice between two consenting souls.
In relationship or play, I start in my submissive's comfort zone, and at a pace right for her, uncover what is true. I then strive to take her beyond her comfort zone when she is ready. Her physical and emotional safety are a priority for me. This is my sacred duty as a human, Dom and erotic guide.
It is imperative that any partner, friend or associate can handle the heat of being connected to someone active in the public eye in advocating for sexual freedom, tolerance and inclusion of Fetisshexuality as healthy, normal sexual lifestyle.
I am active in the Kink lifestyle in several dimensions
As an Author...
Decoding Your Kink–Guide to Explore and Share Your Wildest Sexual Desires
"Visionary...Groundbreaking...Deeply Philosophical...Cutting Edge...Worth its weight in Diamonds...Masterful...Outstanding ...Compelling...Written from the Heart...A Must Read"
These are some of the early exclamations from sex positive psychologists, therapists and Kink sex educators about Decoding Your Kink.
Decoding Your Kink, available on Amazon offers ground-breaking insight and tools for cultivating honest expression, profound trust, and resolving old shame, trauma and fear about one’s authentic sexual expression. It offers tips for people to find their own personal pathways to share the deep intimacies and mind shattering orgasmic states offered by conscious expression of their most taboo yearnings.
The book conveys what I have learned about Conscious Kink and D/s-BDSM sexuality over the last 15 years as a Fetish-positive therapist, researcher and public advocate. It includes reporting and case studies from the 100’s of singles and couples I’ve supported, to come to terms with and understand their sexual desires. I share hard earned insights from my personal journey into the Kink lifestyle as well.
As an Adult Toy Designer...
The Tetruss 3 in 1 portable dungeon suspension bondage rig & sex swing. The Tetruss is lightweight, portable, and free-standing. Search Tetruss for details.
Let your sub hang out on the Tetruss lightweight, portable, free-standing suspension bondage rig and sex swing.
As a Kink Positive Therapist...
Galen Fous MTP - Fetish Sex Educator, Psychotherapist, Sex Researcher.
For over 15 years I have offered professional support for those seeking to untangle their authentic sexual desires for Fetish, Kink, D/s, or BDSM from the cultural shame, fear, morality or parental and inner self judgments that may interfere with or inhibit the full and joyous expression of that authentic desire. I work with singles and couples in my private practice in Portland or phone, and conduct workshops and present at national sexuality or fetish conferences on sexual authenticity.
As a Kink Sex Researcher..
Do you have a Personal Erotic Myth that drives you to orgasm or other deep erotic states? Take the Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth Survey. Learn the startling revelations of over 7000 other Kinksters who have already taken the survey.
It is imperative that any partner, friend or associate can handle the heat of being connected to someone active in the public eye in advocating for sexual freedom, tolerance and inclusion of Fetisshexuality as healthy, normal sexual lifestyle.
I view this lifestyle in two distinct dimensions.The D/s aspect, the
relationship side, and the BDSM aspect, the erotic/sexual side.
The D/s aspect involves the consciously polarized day to day or moment to
moment interaction between the Dominant and the submissive.
It's essence is noble and mythic/romantic. The Dom can express the King or
Queen archetype - giver of blessings, bearer of joy, the wise sage elder,
set the vision, guide and teach, keep order, set clear agreements and
boundaries etc. The submissive can fully embrace devotion, service,
surrender, attentiveness, nurturing energy et al. It is usually part of an
ongoing relationship, but aspects do come into play in a scene or session.
The BDSM side, the erotic/sexual side, is dark energy, the taboo, the
things that should never be done, things that hurt, that are cruel, savage
wildness.
It can also be tender and sensual, if that is the preference, or the two
styles can be mixed. The sensual and the D/s side, is where many people
like to keep their energy. But there are those who are drawn to stretch it
out to the dark edges.
In ritual the "dark" side or shadow energy can be explored expressed and
honored. These shadows can be predator/prey, /victim,
Daddy/, stud/slut, abuser/abused or any combo you can imagine.
They can be drawn to inflicting or receiving physical or emotional pain,
degradation, objectification or humiliation. I work with my partner to develop a level of trust and create a ritual path where these dark energies can be safely revealed, explored, and expressed.
I explore the psychological interplay of D/s, BDSM and power exchange. I
find the mythic archetypal energy of Dom/sub, and other ritual polarities
to have a deep rooted, sacred heritage...and can carry a highly erotic
emotional charge when embodied. I strive to achieve these states thru the
rituals of D/s and BDSM. There also may be healing aspects to exploring
these dynamics and embodying these dark, hidden energies...and at times
supportively examining the issues that may block their expression.
I am also a ritual Dominant erotic sadist. The intent is Eros for me...
to heighten the sexual intensity. Thru power exchange and sweetening the
pain with erotic stimulation, we can blur the lines of pleasure/pain.
In the BDSM context I explore the shadows, the taboo, the forbidden and
"inappropriate". I am not a TOP or sensation player, just out for the
thrill of beating someone. There has to be a compelling erotic,
psychological, emotional charge.
author (google - The Sharp Edge of Love; Decoding Your KInk) and entrepreneur
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My Ideal Person:
My ideal submissive or play partner would be highly sexual, perverse, nasty, primal, sensual,attractive, loves to serve and please, needs to be used and controlled sexually, craves humiliation, degradation, aspiring pain slut, HWP, intelligent, mature, compassionate, spiritual, very sexy, very slutty, dark edged.
I seek my muse!
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