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Vanilla is someone who is not into BDSM.

ALTernatively, sexual behavior which does not encompass ALTᴇʀɴᴀᴛɪᴠᴇ Lɪғᴇsᴛʏʟᴇ/BDSM activity. The term, "Vanilla", is sometimes used in a derogatory sense.

Vanilla (or, Conventional) sex is a description of what a culture or society regards as conventional or standard ("normal") sexual behavior.

Different cultures, subcultures and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex.

Often, it is interpreted as sex which does not involve such elements as ALTᴇʀɴᴀᴛɪᴠᴇ Lɪғᴇsᴛʏʟᴇ, BDSM, Fᴇᴛɪsʜ, Kɪɴᴋ or Tᴀʙᴏᴏ activities.

Descriptive of people who are not active in BDSM (e.g., "Vanilla" sex).

Among heterosexual couples in the Western world, Vanilla sex often refers to the Missionary Position.

It can also be used to describe Insertive sex without any element of BDSM or any Fᴇᴛɪsʜ or Sᴇxᴜᴀʟ Fᴇᴛɪsʜɪsᴍ.

The British Medical Journal defines Vanilla sex between Homosexual couples as, "sex that does not extend beyond affection, mutual masturbation, oral sex and anal sex". In addition to mutual masturbation, penetrative sexual activity among same-sex pairings is contrasted by non-Insertive acts such as Intercrural sex, Frottage and Tribadism (although, Tribadism has been cited as a common - but rarely discussed - sexual practice among Lesbians.

The term "Vanilla" derives from the use of vanilla extract as the basic flavoring for ice cream, and by extension, meaning "conventional" or "plain".

In relationships where only one partner enjoys less conventional forms of sexual expression, the partner who does not enjoy such activities is often referred to as the "Vanilla" partner. As such, it is easy for them to be branded "unadventurous and dull" in sexual matters.
Through exploration with their partner, it is possible for a more Vanilla-minded person to discover new facets of their sexuality.

For others, such exploration is not a positive experience, and they may find the practices they are comfortable with are sufficient for their satisfaction.

Missionary Position is "man-on-top" sex position usually described as the act in which the woman lies on her back and the partners face each other.

Though often acted on and applied by heterosexual pairings, it may also be used by Gay and Lesbian couples.

The Missionary Position is an example of ventro-ventral copulation.
Variations of the position allow varying degrees of vaginal tightness, clitoral stimulation, depth of penetration, participation on the part of the woman and likelihood and speed of orgasm.

The Missionary Position is often preferred by couples who enjoy its romantic qualities afforded by copious skin-to-skin contact and opportunities to look into each other's eyes and kiss and caress each other.

The Missionary Position is also believed to be a good position for procreation.
During sex, Missionary Position allows the man to take charge of the rhythm and depth of thrusting. It is also possible for the woman to thrust against him by moving her hips up or pushing her feet against the bed, or squeeze him closer with her arms or legs.

The Missionary Position is less suitable for late stages of pregnancy, or when it is desired for the woman to have greater control over rhythm and depth of penetration.