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MistressKimm 48F  
11953 posts
4/20/2017 8:05 pm
Speaking of complaints

Speaking of complaints.
Which is what I am doing today.
I have more.

In the last year I have met two sets of couples. One set is friends with the parents-in-law and one set is friends with my mother. My PIL are very different than my mother. But those sets of couples have a few things in common. Somewhere in their late 60’s-early 70’s, childless, and really quite wealthy.

Both sets have done the same thing. We hear they want to meet us. Maybe someone says they like my art or admire the husbands career. But that may be the parents just saying that – they really just want to meet the grown children of their friends. Or so it seems. We met them and it has been almost unbearable. The same thing happened with both sets (one set is Swedish, the other Americans). They spent HUGE amounts of time showing us their homes and all their expensive stuff. They talked – a lot. If we tried to join in the ‘conversation’, we were cut off and interrupted. Their ‘talking’ sounded like dull lecturing/boring bragging. They asked nothing of us – there was no interest in who we are or what we do or our lives/kids, etc.. After hours, they knew our names – that is quite literally it. We were apparently there to listen to them and admire all their stuff.

These were nice people. They fed us and smiled and seemed….nice. I suppose. In both cases, the men cooked and made a show of it. But these were not conversations – they were one-sided show-off meetings. Freaking ego-stroking shit. Don’t they have people they can pay for that?

The thing is – they could have been interesting, even if not interested in us. One couple founded a wickedly successful school in Sweden and hearing about that could be fascinating. The other couple are both retired high-ranking military and one used to work in the Pentagon. That could be interesting to hear about. But what did they want to talk about? Stuff. Stuff they bought with lots of money.

After this happened (again) this past weekend, I started dwelling on how much I can’t stand people. Why express desire to meet us? There is no interest in us. We were an audience. Is this a wealthy thing? A childless thing? An age thing? What the hell is it this all about? It is so rude. My mother says she could have cut glass with the look I gave when I was interrupted (again) as I attempted to say something to take part in the talking.

I don’t expect all people I meet to be interested in my life or my art. I may come off here as wanting worship/attention, but truthfully – that is just from my slave. But if invited to come over….I expect at least a minimal of back-and-forth. If I’m going to have to quietly listen to you list and show your boring expensive things, you are going to need to pay me – and not just with food. If it weren’t for my respect for the PIL or my mother, I would have left.

Fucking people.
(this does not apply to the fucking people I like)


MistressKimm 48F  
9674 posts
4/20/2017 8:06 pm

blahblahblah....rich stuff


sub_nouveau 47F  
2614 posts
4/20/2017 10:19 pm

I've been pondering whether there is a swelling in the numbers of people needing external validation, as it appears that way to me. And if so, what's motivating it? There's just so many things to contemplate in life

Let's talk. It's how we learn about yesterday and comprehend today.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:14 am:
social media? selfies? blogs like this? lol

Chigirl84 36F  
9 posts
4/21/2017 12:45 am

i have also met people like those you described. my take is that these people are extremely unsecured and one way to compensate those feelings is by showing off all the materialistic possessions they have... their world is just what they have and mostly they have friends just like them! i would be very surprised if these kind of people ever have interest in reading books. Mostly i find such people hae tendency to ONE UP on other people...i find them boring....

Sorry for my rant...but just my 2 cents worth...


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:14 am:
yup.
although, both couples are not insecure. Wanting an audience, yes - but insecure, no.

MyLoveandPet 48M/41F  
8512 posts
4/21/2017 5:03 am

I can't stand that shit and I have little self control in situations like those I will eventually pop off say the shocking thing that leaves the whole room staring at me like an alien. After nearly 20 years together Pet has learned not to put me in situations like that.

ML.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:22 am:
I hear you, I have done the same.
I behave myself with restraint when with the parents though.
The husband once took me to a work dinner thing. He liked his boss who sat next to him. He has no idea that man would ignore me and talk to him all night, his wife only speaking to me to ask what church I attended. Needless to day - we won't go through that kind of thing again....lol

alt5250 52M
825 posts
4/21/2017 7:27 am

Oh that just sounds painful having to sit there & effectively get lectured too.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:15 am:
It was indeed.

2ndTimeHere 53M
8355 posts
4/21/2017 8:36 am

Self-obsessed, self-absorbed, self-satisfied...in short typical boomers. The Swedes may not have been born into that , but it sounds like they've bought in big time.

I got beaten up on the price of a commission by one of them some years ago. They guy loved to go on and on about what a big deal he is, how rich he is, the expensive stuff he has, etc - then chisels me out of $600 on $2000 gig. He was more than a little put out by how I de-contented the job, but if he really wanted all the detail work AND teak he should have paid for it. In the end he got a very nice pared down version in mahogany, but I hear he brags about the great deal he got - how he worked the deal.

They know the cost of everything and value of nothing.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:19 am:
ha- I have noticed there are areas these types are cheap with. I have always found it interesting to notice what people spend their money on. The more wealthy seem more interested in brands or 'names'. Real craftsmanship is good, but only if it comes with a recognizable name. fucktards.

speaking of spending money - I used to be fascinated with knowing other couples and what they spent their money on. For example, with the ex-spouse, his family owned restaurants and it was habit to spend on eating out a lot. Friends of mine never did, they were cheap about it (but spent on booze). I'll spend a ton on books, but am cheap when it comes to clothing or shoes. My friend will spend a fortune on purses, but gets all her clothing at second hand shops.

mockyloks 56M
347 posts
4/21/2017 9:13 am

There is a very good reason why as a Dom i enjoy reading your commentary, its nothing to do with sexual innuendo. It's because it is grounded in realism and brutal honesty. Two things i esteem in my persona to be relevant to conversation with anybody at large. It has the earmarks of someone articulate and creative. Thank for sharing your insights, long time reader and seldom commentor.
Mockyloks

Somebody else's words, exploited and plagiarized to promote my unimportant personal viewpoints.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 11:20 am:
That was very nice to read, thank you.
If you are going to say nice things like that - please feel free to comment more

drmgirl622 61F  
4038 posts
4/21/2017 4:05 pm

It appears that in the current society there is this need to self-validate. It's similar to the squeaky wheel syndrome, where people just feel they must out talk the other to get attention. I give you so much credit for making it through the evening.


MistressKimm replies on 4/21/2017 9:22 pm:
yup.
and thank you - I deserve a pat on the back for that one....

sub_nouveau 47F  
2614 posts
4/21/2017 6:35 pm

MistressKimm replies on 4/22/2017 5:14 am:
social media? selfies? blogs like this? lol
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Manifestations of the underlying issue/s

Let's talk. It's how we learn about yesterday and comprehend today.



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