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LonelyKitten2018 52F
15 posts
5/6/2018 8:09 am
Emotional Distress

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msfunfor 63M
10617 posts
5/6/2018 9:25 am

hello ,
sorry to read about your heart ache .
what about the guy listed in your status ? fatcock something ?

be good
M

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LonelyKitten2018 replies on 5/6/2018 9:50 am:
We are friends ..to much distance and we have a lot of stuff keeping us apart.

slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
5/6/2018 9:51 am

So sorry to hear keep looking I have been.

Slave rick


Steven19632 105M
212 posts
5/6/2018 10:48 am

From my own experience, not finding what your looking for can be quite frustrating and build a lot of negative emotions. By giving up looking, your giving into those emotions. Tis better to take a step back, let out those bad feelings and find something positive to replace them as you did with the rope! Becoming more active , as in attending munches, either close to home OR faraway can help. Knowing it isn't "just you" that is having this problem helps a whole lot. Becoming more of a sleuth online can save you from some of the heartache. Talk on the phone, ask for a meet of a place of your own choosing and bring a friend or set up a safe call. Do not let your desires get your ass into trouble Take it slowly to get to know people and not just online. When I stopped looking, someone entered into my life because of something I wrote across the hall. That writing started a kinship that turned into friendship and , Well now we have been married for 3 years this august. One can find what they seek here, it just takes a slow path with lots of questions, discussions and getting to know them as a person and not a screen name.
my 2cents.


LonelyKitten2018 replies on 5/6/2018 1:11 pm:
Going to munches would be nice if I could afford to but thanks to a ex and a monthly income of 400. I don't see that happening ..this is the only option I have for now.. but thank you for your words.

DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
5/6/2018 3:55 pm

I woudl suggest, Getting involved with chats, here or elsewhere. Yes, I know lots of asshats here and everywhere. Being patient, is not easy. But be open to possibilities and keep as positive an attitude as you can. Positivity is far more becoming tan anything negative.Don't swell on what was or what might have been. I know..not easy. Stay as active in other activies and also keep active on line. Not just on alt or in these blogs. You just never know when you will meet good people.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


LonelyKitten2018 replies on 5/6/2018 4:55 pm:
You are very right and I am trying to stay active, I have my own personal blog off here.
Each time I think I found some one I get showed their true colors and I am left broken hearted ..

steelcager 61M
1996 posts
5/6/2018 4:22 pm

I've been without a sub for quite a while. There are a lot of doms and subs here without a partner. Typically, distance has been an issue as well as scheduling. My current problem is scheduling, as I live with 3 kids.

In my case, our local munch location has been closed for several months, but I did come close to obtaining a willing participant no less than 8 times in the last 2 years. A few came very close to becoming reality.

Due to my current situation, I'm not searching as hard as I should be, but I'm not giving up hope yet, either. I'm currently refreshing my "tool kit" with online shopping. I'll be ready when the right one comes along.

I would say that perhaps you can get involved with corresponding with doms within a reasonable travelling distance. If you find someone interesting, perhaps he can come to you.


LonelyKitten2018 replies on 5/6/2018 5:01 pm:
Thanks ..I have tried but as soon as we talk about meeting ..they get cold feet and back out...I had no idea I was that unpleasant to look at .. oh well life goes on.

steelcager 61M
1996 posts
5/6/2018 6:40 pm

Kitten, don't think for a moment that it is your looks, I find you quite attractive, and I'm certain there are several doms behind me in that line.

I'm way too familiar with the cold feet and "ghosting" (mysteriously disappearing out of sight online).

I read your story and I thought, "wow, I would really like to give you the experiences you want, and get those rope marks on you, hopefully getting you to subspace with some pleasurable techniques".

There's the old saying...throw as much at the wall as you can, and see what sticks. It's really a volume game, the more people you contact, the more likely you will find someone to fulfill your desires.

You're young, attractive, and have a great submissive appetite. You deserve to get what you want.

I have a tip...maybe update your status...I would remove the reference to Fatcock, it may be eliminating guys right off the bat. Proper doms have a code that they don't get involved with other dom's subs without permission.


LonelyKitten2018 replies on 5/6/2018 7:06 pm:
Thank you I will do just that .. and thank you for your words. It just seen like because I live out in the middle of "No where" I am doomed to be a lone..

steelcager 61M
1996 posts
5/6/2018 7:47 pm

Kitten, I just looked up your location and you are way up there in Michigan, I used to live near Detroit on the Canadian side.

I don't think you're doomed to be alone. There are a few possibilities...either someone comes to you through online activities, or you can re-locate to a more densely populated area, or you can attract a local fellow by doing things like dropping subtle clues in public gatherings where the guys hang out.

Maybe take a day trip to Green Bay or the Soo, pay a little visit to places where guys congregate in a social setting. Take a girlfriend with you, but she doesn't need to know what you're up to. You could maybe wear fishnets and heels, some interesting makeup, maybe wear something that resembles a collar...you could attract a dom type.


LonelyKitten2018 52F
11 posts
5/7/2018 3:50 am

I want to thank everyone for their words.
Relocating is not an option for me. I worked to hard to have the farm I got plus I take care of my parents who live next door ..I am sure I will find him one day I hope once again Thank you


SirMasterBishop 64M
3 posts
5/9/2018 12:52 pm

Go out to local mulches in your area and meet like minded people. Join FetLife.com, it's free.



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